I’ve just realized that I’ve been doing a lot, and I love it.
Here’s the scenario:
Person A: Person B is totally wrong!
Person B: Person A is totally wrong!
Me to Person A, individually: You know, I see what you’re saying, but I think you really need to think about X and Y
Me to Person B, individually: You know, I see what you’re saying, but I think you really need to consider W and Z
I don’t mean that you should be a yes-person or two-faced in any way, but trying to see both sides of the argument really can help someone see the other side indirectly, especially when they are blind to any other viewpoint.
Saying “Yes,” then, “No,” is a lot more effective than saying “No,” now and, “Yes,” later.